When a Loved One has Cancer
Caring for a loved one with a terminal illness can be challenging. Giving care to someone with cancer presents special challenges and heartaches that you may not know how to handle. Luckily, there are a number of tips that can be used to make sure that you have the ability to provide your loved one with the care that they deserve.
• When the days are numbered, remember that each day is a gift and make it special. Being mindful of this idea can help you to appreciate the present instead of clouding your mind with the uncertain future. Cherish the small things that you may have overlooked in the past. When an unfavorable circumstance arises, consider how you have dealt with similar situations in the past and try to adopt a different attitude.
• Set up a list of activities that your loved one would like to do. It’s ok if they list things that aren’t possible, because even if you manage to accomplish one thing that day, you have still been successful. Don’t forget that seemingly impossible goals can be achieved with a little ingenuity and adaptation. The internet can be an amazing resource for accomplishing these goals and offers an opportunity to be creative with your goals.
• When possible, let your loved one take care of you. It may not seem like much, but the simple act of letting them help you with ordinary tasks may go a long way to increase their feelings of self-worth and outlook on life. Small acts such as helping you decide which meals to make or letting them plan your next activity can boost their confidence and in turn increase their mood and health.
• Another strategy that can be an amazing source of strength is to rely on your friends and family members. Simply talking with them about your experiences and letting them listen will help you to express your feelings. Let them know that you are not expecting them to have all the answers, or any of the answers for that matter. Tell them that just listening to you would be a great help. Your friends and loved ones can also pitch in to help you with little things that may be time consuming which will allow you to tackle the bigger obstacles of the day.
The situation you are dealing with might not be anything close to ideal, but making the best of each day will help you to establish a “new normal.” Caring for a loved one with cancer can be one of the most difficult challenges you’ve ever faced, but it’s important to remember that you have loved ones around you and resources available to help you through this journey.Tweet